Tag Archive | letting go

The Space in Between

“You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love’s no longer being served.” ~Nina Simone

One thing I love about the tarot: besides being an intuitive tool, a set of cards that can answer any question you can ask, each card in the tarot deck tells a story and offers universal wisdom. And each time you pick up the same card, you see different nuances to the story. So, with the 8 of Cups that I was drawn to today.

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Left: Rider Waite Tort. Right: Tarot of the New Vision

The man is walking away, leaving everything behind. The moon up above has his eyes closed. Where he is going is uncertain, but it is important for him to leave. In the card on the right, you can see the sadness on the man’s face. He has crossed the river, there is no going back. What he is leaving behind was once joyful but is no longer.

There are times in our lives when it is necessary to leave a circumstance or person behind, to walk away without looking back. When there is no longer any joy or love in the situation. When what was once joyful and exciting has become painful and exhausting. When we feel the loss of leaving but we know there is no other choice.

What captured my attention in the picture this time is the space between two cups in the top row. The space between. In any journey there are times of walking away and times of walking toward and there is the space in between. That space in between can be the hardest space to be in and the most beautiful, if we allow it. There is grief, there is loneliness, uncertainty, fear.

But this space in between is opportunity, if we allow it. When we process the grief and go through the loneliness, we have the space to look into our soul, to get to know ourselves again. What was the gift in the situation? What did I learn? What do I really want?

The space in between is hope. This space is an empty canvas. What are you going to paint on the canvas? Let your imagination run wild.

A few years ago, I was unhappy with just about everything in my life. I had lost my passion for my health coaching business, I was unhappy in my job, some friends had gradually drifted away. I decided I was going to move, but when I started looking for jobs in other states, I got nowhere. I saw an intuitive coach for guidance and was told that I wasn’t going anywhere until I found happiness where I was. Not what I wanted to hear. But I sat with it. I looked around me for happiness. I put everything on hold and picked up one thread of something that I knew had given me happiness in the past: dance. I had stopped ballroom dancing and when I tried to pick it up again, I didn’t find a place that felt right to me. I came upon a Salsa and Latin studio when I was wandering around Meetup, a circuitous and synchronous path. It never showed up in my searches for ballroom dance. It took a little time, but I found there not only the joy of dancing, but the community that I had been missing.

I never moved, I didn’t change jobs. I’ve been inspired, learning and growing, making changes, loving my life. I’m still figuring a lot of stuff out. I’ve been in this space in between other times since, the dance and the community have been there for me. I’ll be in the space again and I’ll know what to do.

This space in between the leaving of one thing and the coming of the next, it is necessary. It is a constant in our journey. When you learn to be in it, it’s a beautiful space full of promise and opportunity. Allow it. Take it in. Paint the picture on the empty canvas of what you desire and let the synchronicity, the Universe, God do the rest.

 

 

This or Something Better

I hesitate to admit it, but “this, or something better” has kept me quite stuck. Also, “be careful what you wish for.”

In manifesting circles, as we voice our intentions, our desires and dreams, and expect to manifest them in reality, we add on “this or something better” with the understanding that God or the Universe or whatever you believe in knows better than we do what is best for us. Whatever it is we are wishing for, there might be something better, and we certainly want that, the unknown, better thing.

Sounds great, and who am I to argue with those who are more experienced and wiser.

But here’s how it’s kept me stuck. When I’m asking for “this or something better,” I’m not committing to the THIS that I want. Instead of staying and committing to THIS that I just said I desired, I’ve already moved on to the unknown “something better.” I am realizing that, for most of my life, I have not been good at committing. Always wondering, if I commit to this, what “something better” am I missing out on. (yes, I’m single)

The other good one, “be careful what you wish for,” that one’s a doozy. It’s had me in fear over my own desires. What if I really want that house / job / pet / vacation / man and I get it and it totally sucks? Sort of keeps me in indecision and unwilling to commit.

I’ve happened into a lot of my life rather than designed it. I’ve made a lot of safe choices because I had to. I’ve spent a lot of time unhappy, not living the life I want and deserve.

I’ve also made some really, really awesome choices, that turned out spectacularly and lead me to this crazy, amazing life I’m living. Those times when I dared to commit.

“At the moment of commitment the entire universe conspires to assist you.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

When you COMMIT to your desires, you amplify your manifestation power. The Universe is there for you, making it happen. Synchronicity happens.

So, what about “this, or something better” and “be careful what you wish for”? 

I’ve made good decisions and I’ve made bad decisions and I’ve learned and lived through them all. My best decisions I’ve committed to whole-heartedly and I’ve manifested every one. Most of them were great, some of them were lessons. As I trust in God to support and love me, I trust in my own intuition and guidance about what it is that I desire in life. I’m following my dreams, one step at a time. And if I’m wrong, I’ll learn the lesson.

I’m letting go of living a life I’ve just happened upon and ready to create the life I dream of. Yes, I’m COMMITTING to my dreams. All of it. I’m not being careful, and I’m not asking for something kind of like what I want, maybe better. I am committing to what I want.

I’ll let you know how it turns out.